曼迪摩尔在美国全国广播公司的《这就是我们》中扮演妈妈已经快六年了，但直到她自己的儿子奥古斯特（简称格斯)在二月份出生，她才完全理解了自己的角色。在此之前，摩尔借鉴了自己母亲和其他母亲的经验，让丽贝卡皮尔森活了过来，并因其作品获得艾美奖提名。上一季，当她和她的电视丈夫杰克（由米洛文堤米利亚饰演)被拍摄到像专业人士一样给婴儿换尿布和襁褓时，摩尔承认她不知道自己在做什么——尽管当时她已经怀孕9个月了。在格斯之后，她不仅学到了婴儿护理的基本知识，还获得了全新的深厚感情。这次经历很深刻，几乎让她想重来一次。就像'哦，我们能回去吗？摩尔说。' '我们能倒回到2015年吗，这样我就可以重做整个系列？''
在现实生活中，37岁的摩尔嫁给了道斯乐队36岁的泰勒戈德史密斯。摩尔本人是一名歌手和词曲作者——你的孩子可能会认出她是《纠结》电影和电视剧中的长发公主，她在2020年发行了第七张录音室专辑《银色着陆》。这对夫妇是在2015年通过照片墙认识的，当时她对道斯的一张专辑赞不绝口，泰勒给她打了电话。他们于2018年结婚。摩尔说，戈德史密斯注定要成为一个父亲，自然会陷入婴儿争吵，尽管像摩尔一样，他在拥有自己的新生儿之前从未抱过孩子。
当摩尔想到她的电视角色做的每件事都是一式三份时，她感到一种深深的敬意。摩尔说，我对丽贝卡皮尔森怀有敬畏之心，这是我生孩子前所没有的。这是因为格斯是一个容易随波逐流的婴儿。同时三个？坦白地说，我不知道她是怎么做到的。
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Are you someone who always knew that she wanted to be a mother?
我希望我有机会体验做母亲的感觉，但直到遇到我的丈夫，我才说，'哦，这就是我想和他一起做这件事的人。
" It really solidified once I met Taylor.
Mandy Moore with husband and child Credit: Courtesy of Mandy Moore
How did you know he was the right person to start a family with?
I just wanted to spend my life with this person. He's an incredible teacher—his patience, his presence, his intuition. He's a wonderful friend. He's a wonderful pet parent, brother, and husband. I just knew that this was in the cards for him. It was inevitable. I'd say, within the first six months of our relationship, we were already starting to talk about a family. I mean, this is a man who has written songs about coaching Little League.
What is your favorite part of the day?
The morning. When Taylor's here, which he mostly is, except when he's touring, we make our coffee and then walk into the nursery together. We open the curtains and say, "Hi, Gus," and this giant smile erupts on Gus's face. He's just so excited to see us. It's as if he thinks, "You're still here! You showed up again." We bring him back to our room and spend the first hour or so hanging out in bed together. Yeah, the morning is magical.
Did the experience of being a new mom match up to what you expected?
I had no idea what I was in for. I mean, there's so much emphasis on pregnancy! Then the baby comes, and it's suddenly all about the baby, and you just figure it out. I honestly felt a little forgotten and lost. I guess I expected friendships to be maintained. When you have a child, the world as you know it shifts in such a profound way, and for the most part everyone was waiting when I came up for air. But I've also found that some friendships have seasons. So it's become important for me to reach out to new friends on social media, like chef Gaby Dalkin. We knew each other peripherally before, but now that we've had babies at the same time, I am like, "Can we hang out? Can we talk? Can I pick your brain?"
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Do you guys have routines, or do you try to go with the flow?
We're loosely structured, trying to be as malleable as possible with our schedule because of the nature of our jobs. Gus was coming to work with me when he was a month old. I don't have a stopwatch where I'm like, "Okay, it's been an hour and a half, he needs to eat now" or "It's been three hours on the dot, he has to go down now." We sort of look to him for cues, whether he's hungry or whether he's rubbing his eyes. A month ago, I was in the studio making a new record, and he came with me every day. He was in the room next door in his Pack 'n Play with his toys. He was all set up.
It's good to prepare, but you also have to factor in the unknowns, right?
Yeah, the books are fantastic, but you're still going to find yourself googling. The other night, at eight o'clock, he'd been asleep for an hour, and I walked into his room and was like, "Ooh, I smell poop. Should I change him? He's going to get a diaper rash." So I get on my phone and start searching, "Should I wake up a sleeping baby for a poopy diaper?" And there are 50 contradicting answers explaining why you should and why you shouldn't. So I'm like, "You know what, I'm just going to trust my gut and do this stealthily." Of course, he woke up and started crying, and then he peed all over me and all over himself. It was a disaster. So we're very much still flying by the seat of our pants, but I feel like that is parenthood in a nutshell, and we're going to be doing that for the rest of our lives.
Mandy Moore wearing red polka dotted dress "We're very much still flying by the seat of our pants," Moore says. "But I feel like that is parenthood in a nutshell." | Credit: Victor Demarchelier
Has having him had any kind of effect on your creativity?
Not to sound cheesy, but all the clichés are true. Life is Technicolor now. It just makes sense in a way that it didn't before. I had no idea that this degree of love existed in the world. Yeah, it's going to change what I write about and, as an actor, what I'm able to access. I have a new color to bring to the table that I didn't have before. It's going to impact the choices I make when it comes to work. Everything is different now.
Did anything turn out to be more difficult than you thought?
Once that initial wave of new-parent euphoria sort of wore off, when the chaos of those early weeks started to wane, and the extra support we had in the beginning started tapering off, the reality of being Mom was suddenly front and center. It was scary. Like, "Oh, wow. Now the onus is on me. Do I know what I'm doing?" And I watched my husband effortlessly step into it. Everything he did seemed easy. He could get Gus to go to sleep like that, to laugh like that, whereas I felt clumsy and awkward. I felt a lot of shame and a lot of guilt. But friends told me, "Find some grace and patience for yourself, and know that all of this is new." Suddenly, we glided into a new phase and Gus preferred me to my husband. And it's going to change again. It's a roller coaster.
There's so much expectation placed on mothers and not quite as much on fathers, so maybe they don't have that pressure hanging over their head?
There's so much expectation from society, and we put ourselves under so much pressure and scrutiny. It's silly. I feel like I'm going to be constantly checking myself, because right now, I feel like I have a handle on things, but I know that any day I'm going to feel like I'm flailing again.
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What are some of your goals for motherhood?
Gus is the most important thing in my life, but I still love my job. I know it will be a balance of figuring out how to do a bit of everything. I want to be present and available, and I want to be involved at school. I very much want to be the parent who volunteers for the field trip. I had that in my own life with my parents.
Does Gus already love music?
He's just fascinated by the mechanics of music being made. Gus will watch my husband's fingers while he's playing the guitar and will start kicking his legs when he hears a beat that he likes, and he really likes it when we sing. He watches my mouth when I'm singing. Maybe he recognizes my voice from in the womb because I used to sing to him all the time.
What are some things you're looking forward to experiencing with him in the next year?
I'm super-excited about holidays. I love Halloween and Christmas and birthdays. Holidays mean family to me. I'm excited to figure out what our traditions are going to be. In my family, on Christmas Eve, we always had breakfast for dinner because on my parents' first Christmas together, they had no food in the house except eggs and bacon and toast, and so that became Christmas Eve dinner. That might be a fun tradition to keep up with our family. Or maybe we'll force Gus to have some sort of family band with us, and we'll make him sing carols with us.
Maybe you could even do a family Christmas album.
Exactly. Gus will have no choice in the matter.
Mandy Moore with baby at home Credit: Victor Demarchelier
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Song we sing to Gus: "When I Paint My Masterpiece," written by Bob Dylan and made famous by The Band.
Children's book we read: Dragons Love Tacos, by Adam Rubin, is his favorite.
Sweet story behind the name August: That's the month we found out we were having a boy. Once we chose it, we also realized it starts with an A (my full name is Amanda) and ends with a T, for Taylor.
Favorite baby toy: He won't stop chewing Sophie la Girafe.
Part of pregnancy that I kind of miss: Having him all to myself and feeling that deep connection. I mean, nothing is better than having him here, but feeling him inside, when it was just the two of us, was very special.
Hardest part of pregnancy: Being so sick at the beginning.
Most special tree ornament: A picture of our dog, Joni, who passed away last year when I was seven months pregnant.
When Gus goes to bed, I watch: Ted Lasso.
Self-care "must": Baths. (Also, though, a bath with him is my favorite.)
Chances of making it to midnight on December 31: Less than zero.
One of my resolutions: Less phone time.
New thing I hope to try in 2022: Hitting the road to play music with my husband and baby in tow.
This article originally appeared in Parents magazine's December 2021 issue as "'Life Is Technicolor Now.'" Want more from the magazine? Sign up for a monthly print subscription here
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